The Child Has His Own Future

 The greatest obligation to our children is; to prepare them to understand and deal effecively with the world; in which they will  live and not with the wrold we have known, or the world we would prefer to have.

Khalil Gibran has so beautifully expressed these feeling in his famous book The Prophet. When the Prophet was asked by the people to comment upon 'The Children' this is what he had said:-

“Your children are not your children.
They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the make upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness.
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He also loves the bow that is stable.”

He says that the soul of  the children dwell in the house of tomorrow. The children have to life in future that we as  their parents or grandparents can't even imagine.

The philospher emphasises the fact that we should not force our opinions upon our children but at the same time he also lays emphasis that the parents need to ensure that the child becomes both strong and discilplined in life and for this if required he needs to be strong in handling them.

Pressure from Within Begins a LIfe

Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone expects of you. Never excuse yourself.

It is well said that pressure for outside breaks an egg and thereby ends a life. But on the other hand when the chick from withing the egg breaks open the egg shell and comes out the pressure from within begins a life.

Similary unless and untill we reach the level of self improvement, unless and untill we develop a desire to excel no outer pressure  can help us attain our set targets. 

Purify from Within

 Possessing a sweet tongue but a rotten heart will not do us any good. 

Gurbani says that we may speak sweetly with the people around us but within our hearts we carry negativity and bad thoughts will be like trying to churn water for butter. 

The ultimate aim for all of us should be to purify ourselves from within. 

There's no other way to attain salvation.

How to Teach Compassion

 Normally it is seen that when a child trips and falls off or gets hurt from an object and starts crying, mother comes rushing towards him and not only picks him up in her lap but also starts hitting the floor upon which the child had fallen or the object due to which the child had got hurt. This she does inorder to pacify the child so that he stops crying. But in doing so she iinvariably creates an impression in the mind of the child that whatever or whosoever  hurts you should be punished. She sows the seed of, "Revengefulness" in the mind of the child for his entire life.

Only if the mother can react by both picking up the child in her lap and simultaneously  caress and cajole the floor upon which the child had fallen or the object with which the child had got hurt or wounded the child will develop to look around him with compassion and care. 

Right or Wrong Path the Choice is Yours

 Each time you are honest and conduct yourself with honesty, a success force will drive you toward greatter success.

Each time you lie, even with a little white lie, there are strong forces pushing you toward failure.

What you hear and belief so you become. 

M K Gandhi has so nicely put this in the following golden words:-

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”

The story of the Two Wolves is a popular legend of an unknown  origin.  It is a story of a grandfather using a metaphor of two wolves fighting within him to explain his inner conflicts to his grandson. When his grandson asks which wolf wins, the grandfather answers whichever he chooses to feed is the one that wins. 

It is strongly believed world over that whatever we do continuously for 21 days it becomes a habit irrelevant of the fact whether we do good things or bad.

As the Mighty Lord has blessed us with the great POWER to CHOOCE why can't we make the RIGHT choice of choosing the RIGHT and GOOD habits and make not only our life beautiful and sublime but that of all others connected with us?

Aas kariye Ram ki Avra aas nirass

 Air can't save a man falling from a height.

Smoke can't save a man getting burnt with fire.

Waves can't save a man from drowning in the ocean.

In other words we may say that a weaker element can't be of a great help to a person in need. 

The only support that one should look forward to is that of the Almighty Lord who is all pervading, ominipresent, self sufficient and merciful. 

Hence it is rightly said in Guru Granth Sahib ji, "Aas kariye Ram ki Avra aas niraas."

Looking for support else where will always be futile.

Ek Simar!  Ek Simar! Ek Simar re Bande!

Acts of Responsibilities

 Life is the acceptance of responsibilities or their evasion; it is a business of meeting obligations or avoiding them.

To every man the choice is continually being offerem and by the manner of his choosing, you may fairly, measure him.

In a workplace duties are assigned to the empoyess by the employer or the manager expecting the best from them. 

Few employees take on the the assigned duties with  utmost seriousness and execute them to the best of their abilities because they love to do so.

Few execute the duties out of fear.

And few are expert in neither bothering to consult the seniors  nor even executing their tasks.