Let's Learn to Value People Who Help Us to Grow

 

‘Successful people are more concerned with pleasing  results.

Failures are more concerned with pleasing methods`’

This means we should be bold enough to express ourselves when we find something wrong with the task at hand even if our seniors have decided upon a scheme for it. No one is perfect,

 Our seniors are also human beings  and hence may make mistakes or overlook certain important things while taking a decision.  People who are concerned with pleasing methods may not dare to point out the mistakes or the shortcomings out of fear that this may annoy their superior.  But the ones who are concerned with the results will surely dare to do so and save greater difficulty at a later stage.

A  good leader is the one who understands the difference between the two and values the ones who point out the errors in time so that they can be looked into and rectified.

 

A fault is fostered by concealment

 

“A fault is fostered by concealment”

The word ‘fostered’ means encourage the development of something desirable; to bring up a chlld that is not ones  own by birth. ‘Concealment’ means to hide.

‘Fault’ may not be something that we would like to be associated with.  None of us can say that we are devoid of it.

We all commit faults  when we attempt to do something.

 The best way to compensate our faults  is to let  the  people  concerned with it know about it so that it can be rectified.

If we don’t reveal our faults to others there will be very less chance of growing in the right direction.

Advice to my Daughter Dr Navleen Kaur ( Ity)

 

Few things that every Dad should tell his daughter to raise a strong, independent and an empowered woman:-

Whether your little one is a "daddy's girl" or still working on her relationship with Dad, there's no denying the importance of this male figure in a little girl's life. A dad's love is typically the first male love a child receives and his influence helps set the path for the person that kid becomes. It isn't easy to raise a strong and independent daughter, but certain things a father figure says has the power to help — or hinder — this growth. Although it might feel like these are just simple phrases in passing, hearing these things from Dad can stick with a little girl for years to come and help shape her into a passionate and empowered young lady.

Your determination inspires me.

I can't imagine my life without you.

I love you.

You impress me each and every day.

I have faith in you.

You can do anything.

I'm so proud of you.

I love that you're always willing to try.

Your effort blows me away.

You've got this.

There's no shame in recognizing when you need help and asking for it.

I'm always here if you need me.

I love watching you grow.

It's important that you love yourself as much as I love you.

I hope you're never afraid to try something new.

I love you more each and every day.

Spending time with you is the best part of my day.

Do what makes you happy.

You're pretty on the inside.

Always be your biggest advocate.

Your thoughts matter.

Never be afraid to ask a question or to speak up.

Your words can be used for good or harm and it's important to know the difference.

You should always try to stand out from the crowd.

Always let your personality shine.

I'm here for you no matter what.

Give your heart only to those who deserve it.

I love hanging out with you.

It's OK to fall as long as you get back up.

Never let anyone pressure you.

Embrace the things that make you different.

I'll never stop loving you.

Your opinion matters, especially to me.

Time Management

 ‘Lost wealth may be replaced by industry, lost knowledge by study,  lost health by temperance or medicine; but lost time is gone foever.’

Somewhere in 1981 I remember I had carried Sidney Sheldon’s Bloodline with me to Valour where I had accompanied my maternal uncle Inder Singh Mamaji for his ear checkup. While going through the novel  I had come across the following beautiful lines related to Time:-

‘Time is the subtle thief of youth,

The thief that shortens all our golden hours.

For then I had never understood,

Why lovers counted their happiness

In days nights and years?

When it could be only measured

In our joys sighs and tears`.

Time and tide wait for none. Hence it is important for us to learn to manage and  our time well for attaining our goals and also to have peace of mind.

Stephen Covey  divides all our tasks into the following four categories:-

1.       Important and Urgent

These tasks come under NECESSITY

Example: Deadlines to be met; Medical emergencies; pressing problems; last minute preparations

We need to LEARN to Mangage and Do such activities

2.       Important but Not Urgent

Example: Preparation and Planning; Values; Clarifications; Empowerment; Relationship building; True recreation

We need to LEARN to STAY FOCUSED and PLAN

3.       Not Important but Urgent

These tasks come under DECEPtION

Example: Frequent interruptions; Most emails; Some calls; Meeting other people’s priorities; Urgency appearing as important

We need to LEARN to be CAUTIOUS

4.       Neither Important nor Urgent

These tasks come under WASTE

Example: Mindless TV watching; Video games; Phone calls; Chats; Gossips

We need to LEARN to AVOID/ELIMINATE

We need to introspect ourselves and see where we are spending our time and automatically our intelligence will enable us to bring about a change in ourselves and improve in our stature irrespective of the situation or age we in.

 

                

Democracy

 ‘In demorcracy the poor will have more power than the  rich because, there are more of them and the will of majority is supreme.’

‘Democracy is of the people by the people and for the people.’ (Abraham Lincoln)

It sounds all good only if the poor get educated to select the best for both themselves and for the nation.

It will be great if we can get leaders who are strong, creative, proactive, think win win, are able to understand others and most importantly don’t get carried away by false praises by people around them and are able to take criticism positively and are ready to improve

Live Within Your Means

 

Bring your desires down to your present means. Increase them only when your increased means permit.

We always were told by our parents never to bring home anything with borrowed money. There’s another beautiful and profound saying, “Per utne phelou jitni badhi aap ki chadar hai”, i.e., spread  your legs to the extent of the length of your sheet to put the idea right into our minds.

However modern day living has made it essential for us in many ways to seek loans from the banks to fulfil our dreams. In such cases too it is highly advisable to borrow the kind of amount that will not be difficult to return in the stipulated time.

Life grants nothing to us mortals without hard-work

 

It is well said that God provides food to every bird but he doesn’t keep in the their beaks. The lesson is very clear to all of us. We need to have firm faith in the  presence of God but it certainly doesn’t mean that  we leave everything to Him.

Work is the only means through which we can attain success.  Teachers and parents can show us the path but it is upto us to travel to road shown to us to reach the destination.

Teachers, parents , scriptures and Masters are the mile stones. We will certainly not reach the intended destination if we stop and start worshipping the mile stone.

We may enhance the power of our mind by creating a space in it for our desire to own a big house or a luxurious car or go on a vacation but that will not help us to get to live  in the big house or own the car or go on the vacation unless and until we do something about it. We got to persevere and learn to manoeuvre in the complexity of world affairs to ultimately do so.

 

 

Don't Delay in What You Intend to Do

 

‘A Single day is enough to make us a little larger. Each day affets all the ones that come ater it. Today is a turning point in life. The things we accomplish the people we meet,  the direction we set today, will have consequences far into the future.’

Any change that we deem fit for our self growth should be implemented without delay. The life is too short for us to postpone all that we intend to accomplish.

Go ahead and pick the book that you want to read; meet the person you have been waiting to meet; call the  person you were looking forward to speak to; make your you tube channel that you wanted to from many days or years and record your songs, dance, thoughts and post them; buy the canvas upon which you intend to paint and paint upon it; compliment the people around you about the things you like in them, for life will not give us another opportunity to do these things again.